Warning Signs

Warning SignsExtreme Jealousy: Your dating partner does not want you to spend time with anyone else. He or she gets mad when you talk to other guys or other girls.

Controlling Behavior: Your dating partner is possessive.  He or she treats you like a belonging and does not want you to share time with other people.  He or she tries to control what you wear, what you do, or where you go. He or she insists that you “check in” or ask permission to do things.

Isolation: Your boyfriend or girlfriend keeps you from spending time with your friends and family. He or she does not want you to spend time with anyone else.  You are pressured to give up hobbies and interests that you enjoy.

Quick Involvement: He or she gets very serious about the relationship too quickly.  For example, he or she wants to marry you or talks about being with you forever only after dating a short while.

Blame: You get blamed when your boyfriend or girlfriend mistreats you.  He or she might say that you provoked him or her.  Your partner says that you pushed his or her buttons, made him or her abuse you, hurt you, or led him or her on.  It is not your fault.

Abused former Partners: Your partner has a record of abusive relationships and blames others for their behavior.  He or she has a history of fighting or loses their temper quickly.

Pressure: Your partner pressures you into things you don’t want to do.  He or she abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to take them as well.  He or she pressures you for sex or attention by saying something like, “If you really loved me you would…”

Warning SignsPhysical Abuse & Intimidation: He or she hits, punches, kicks, strangles, chokes, shoves, or threatens you in any way.  Your partner raises their hand or throws things to frighten you.

Inequality: He or she believes that in a relationship one person should have all the control and the other should be submissive.  He or she makes all of the decisions.

Emotional Abuse: He or she dismisses your thoughts and feelings when it comes down to making decisions together.  He or she humiliates you in front of others, calls you names, or insults you.

Warning Signs Survey

Do you try to take control of your partner?



Do you always try to be right?



Have you ever hit or intimidated your partner?



Do you ever feel bad about how you treat your partner?



Does your partner ever physically abuse you or intimidate you?



Would you tell someone if saw a friend being abused?



Do you ever feel like your partner puts you down or humiliates you?





The Domestic Violence Prevention Enhancements and Leadership Through Alliances (DELTA) Project in Michigan is funded by the Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (MCADSV)through Award Number US/CCU522485 from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). This project uses a grass-roots, replicable, public health approach to strengthening the capacity of our community members to prevent domestic violence. Its contents are solely the responsibility of the authors and do not necessarily represent the official views of the Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence or the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

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